I asked my friend, “What is the secret behind your happy married life?” He replied, “You should share responsibilities with love and respect each other. Then, there will be no problems.”
Curious, I asked him to explain. He said, “In my house, I make decisions on bigger issues, while my wife decides on smaller ones. We do not interfere in each other’s decisions.”
Still unconvinced, I requested examples. He elaborated, “Smaller issues like which car to buy, how much to save, when to visit the supermarket, when and where to go on vacation, which sofa, air conditioner, or refrigerator to buy, and whether to keep a maid are all decided by my wife. I just agree to it.”
I then asked, “What is your role?” He smiled and said, “My decisions are for very big issues like whether America should attack Iran, whether Britain should lift sanctions over Zimbabwe, whether Bodoland should be formed, or whether Ronaldo should retire from football. My wife never objects to any of these decisions.”
I was amazed by his response and asked, “But isn’t it important to discuss everything with your partner?” He explained, “Of course, communication is key. We discuss and share our opinions on everything. However, when it comes to making a final decision, we trust each other to make the right choice based on our respective strengths and areas of expertise.”
His words made me realize that the secret to a happy married life is not about who has the final say in every matter, but rather about mutual respect, trust, and understanding. It is about recognizing and appreciating each other’s strengths and weaknesses, and working together as a team to overcome challenges and make important decisions.
In a successful marriage, both partners should feel valued and respected. Each person should have the freedom to express their opinions and feelings without fear of judgment or criticism. It is important to listen to each other, compromise when necessary, and support each other through thick and thin.
My friend’s words have stayed with me ever since that conversation. I have come to realize that a happy married life is not about finding the perfect partner, but rather about being the perfect partner. It is about being selfless, patient, and understanding. It is about putting the needs and happiness of your spouse above your own, and working together to build a strong and lasting relationship.
So, the next time you find yourself in a disagreement with your spouse, take a step back and remember the secret to a happy married life – love, respect, communication, and compromise. By following these simple principles, you can create a harmonious and fulfilling relationship that will stand the test of time.
