I just got married to my wonderful 28-year-old husband, and I’m 25 years old. I brought a dish from my late mom’s recipes to my in-laws’ family dinner last weekend.My MIL gave me a mean look and told me, “Get your mom’s food out of my house!” as I put it on the table. I hugged my husband goodbye and drove to wait for him for an hour.
Until he suddenly laughed out loud and asked, “Did you hear the joke my cousin told at dinner?”. The ride home was quiet. He’s so funny that he should be a comedian.
It was only my third time meeting my mother-in-law and the second time I’d been to a party with his family. My mother passed away a year before we got married, so my MIL never got to meet her.I have no idea where this anger is coming from. Now that my mom’s memory was disrespected, I feel both ashamed and deeply hurt.
It’s even worse that my husband doesn’t care about how I feel and doesn’t even try to apologize or acknowledge them. It’s hard for me to get over this, especially since he doesn’t support me or say sorry on behalf of his mother.
I felt like an outsider in my own husband’s family, and it was a painful experience for me. I couldn’t understand why my MIL would be so disrespectful towards me and my late mother. Bringing a dish that was special to me was my way of honoring my mom’s memory and sharing a part of her with my new family.
I tried to brush off the incident and focus on the positive aspects of the evening, but it continued to weigh heavily on my mind. It was a reminder that not everyone will appreciate or understand the significance of certain gestures, especially when it comes to honoring loved ones who have passed away.
I confided in my husband about how I was feeling, hoping that he would offer some comfort or support. However, he seemed to downplay the situation and didn’t see it as a big deal. It was disappointing to me that he didn’t stand up for me or address the issue with his mother.
As I reflected on the events of that evening, I realized that I needed to find a way to move past this hurtful experience. I decided to focus on the love and memories I shared with my mother, rather than dwelling on the negativity that had transpired. I also made a conscious effort to communicate my feelings to my husband and express the importance of standing by me in difficult situations.
While the incident with my MIL was hurtful and challenging to navigate, it ultimately taught me the importance of staying true to myself and honoring the memory of my late mother in my own way. I learned that not everyone will understand or appreciate the significance of certain actions, but it’s essential to stay true to who I am and the values that are important to me. Moving forward, I will continue to cherish the memories of my mother and find solace in knowing that her spirit lives on in me, regardless of the challenges I may face.