But they also carry regrets, some quietly, some aloud.

Bronnie Ware, a former palliative care nurse and author of The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, spent eight years caring for terminally ill patients. In that time, she listened closely to what people wished they’d done differently. “There were big lessons in the things they said,” she shared in an interview with The Chris Evans Breakfast Show, via CNBC.

Here are the five regrets Ware heard most often:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish I had let myself be happier.

The first one (failing to live authentically) came up the most. “When people realize their life is almost