Graysexuality falls within the broader asexual spectrum, which also includes asexuality and demisexuality. (Last year, N-Dubz singer Tulisa came out as demisexual, saying she needs a close emotional bond before feeling any desire.)

Because the concept is still widely misunderstood, many graysexual people report facing stigma or confusion about their preferences. However, online spaces, including the growing r/greysexuality subreddit, have become a place to share stories and find community.

Recently, one Reddit user asked others to share when they realised they were graysexual. Many said their “lightbulb moment” came in adolescence but took years to fully understand.

“I had crushes, but they were very few and far between, like decades apart,” wrote the original poster. “I’ve felt true sexual attraction maybe